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I didn’t cry when Bambi’s mother died.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was fine at the end of Titanic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In Godfather Part 2 when Michael ordered Fredo’s death… ok maybe a little.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We fellas, we’re not great at getting emotional.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I’m here to tell you that it’s OK to cry on your wedding day.  In fact, it’s a really good thing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n

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This article is part of a series exploring the wedding day from a man’s perspective.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you like this have a look at the first and hugely popular first article in the series: Bridal Prep – What the morning of the wedding day is all about<\/a><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Oh and I’m also a wedding photographer, when you’re done reading this and are in search of a wedding photographer<\/a><\/strong> you could have a poke around my site and see if my style (and price<\/a>) suits you.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Women cry at weddings, that’s just a thing they do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Women cry quite a lot more than men do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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From what I can gather they think that crying is a normal thing to do, healthy even.  So when they never see guys crying they think something is wrong with us.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That’s the first reason why crying at a wedding is a good thing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

My Wedding Tears Cheat Sheet<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

Let’s start out with what guys do best, make lists.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here is my list of all the points during your wedding where you may feel ‘the tingle’.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I know what you’re thinking, not that<\/strong> tingle.  Hopefully that<\/strong> tingle will happen later, just don’t get too drunk (pro tip).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This tingle is the one that hits you somewhere behind the eyes, and sometimes in the throat too.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Moments during your wedding that might make you cry<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

1. The moment your mum sees you all dressed up and she bursts into tears<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let’s face it, anyone looking at you and crying is likely to set you off.  When it’s your mum it’s even more difficult to fight it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. You’re stood at the alter and you turn around to see your bride walking down the aisle<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

By this point you’ve been stood in the same spot for quite a while.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your mind is racing… thoughts are flying through your head.  Why isn’t she here yet?  Will I say the wrong thing?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Hopefully your best man will be trying to calm you down and reassure you that everything is ok, but still, you will be nervous.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then the music starts to play.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Everyone in the room gasps.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You turn around…. boom!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That’s the moment and it will smack you in the face like a wet towel.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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If she’s crying at that point then you’ve got no chance, tingle time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. During the ‘but seriously’ part of the Best Man’s speech<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your best man is probably someone you have known for years and have a very close friendship with.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Between fellas these bonds tend to go unspoken.  The only time they ever come out is during the best man speech.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These rare glimpses into the inner machinations of a male friendship tend to be fleeting, probably because the best man is just as uncomfortable saying it as you are hearing it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The outpoor moments are carefully sandwiched in between hilarious groom-roasting stories so as to not overwhelm the situation with anything too deep for too long.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You may not expect this to happen but I see it at almost every wedding, and if I’m honest it makes me envy how easily women are able to discuss these kinds of things with each other… a little.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If your best man’s speech involves anything along the lines of ‘you have always been there for me…’ then get a hankie ready.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Such outpourings can be pretty emotionally draining on the best man too.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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I should also mention that by this point you’ve probably had a beer or two plus a couple of glasses of champagne which won’t help.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. During the Father & Daughter dance<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

This is the part that always gets me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I may be susceptible to this because I have a little girl myself, so if you are not a parent you might get away with this one.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Not every couple decides to have a father and daughter dance at their wedding.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Of those who do, many dance to I Loved Her First<\/em> by Heartland<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n